meta about basing identities in trauma and how it hinders healing
When we base our identities in trauma, we have often already hindered our healing processes.
Because if you ever heal, then what of the identity you based around all the pain you felt? What of the communities built around circlejerking about trauma (not the same as support groups) and the friends made there?
If you're not suffering anymore, then the identity built around that crumbles and you have to find new groups that aren't about suffering. And that's hard. Which makes people very reluctant to actually learn how to heal, especially when some groups subtly discourage it.