re: contrapoints (but more analysis this time), "conflicting needs", discussing misgendering - 5/5
Now, there are some folks that the norm of sharing pronouns can actually hurt‡, but all in all it seems like the option that works for the most people. There's no perfect solution, and when dealing with things this personal there never is... but we all need our proper pronouns used, our identity respected, and to feel properly included (not just as an afterthought). These aren't competing needs, they're universal.
‡ Couple of examples folks brought up to me over the past two days:
Folks who aren't ready to be out yet, who'd feel pressured into misgendering themselves.
Folks with trauma around sharing their pronouns, e.g. in their experience it's always been followed by abuse.