re: contrapoints (but more analysis this time), "conflicting needs", discussing misgendering - 4/5
The thing is, she started out strong enough talking about folks (that she's assumed are cis) making sharing pronouns an awkward ordeal or only doing it when she's around. Those are perfectly valid complaints, but the issue there is people who are only trying to be inclusive performatively and aren't normalizing the practice. Having this be a smooth, non-awkward process is something everyone involved should have - there was literally no reason to set binary and non-binary folks against each other.
I can't tell if it's privilege blinding her to the fact that these are all needs everybody has or what, but she threw enby peeps under the bus for no reason whatsoever. With collateral damage of basically every trans person, too, since "doesn't pass" applies to damn near every trans person at the beginning of their transition. We all have to start somewhere.