Welcome to the Plural Café!
Grab a hot cocoa or coffee from the bar, kick back and relax. This is a Mastodon instance that is focused around fostering a friendly and welcoming community for plural systems and plural-friendly singlets alike. Multiple accounts for each systemmate is also allowed, if you choose!
For our Privacy Policy and server information, see our Terms of Service page. All donations for server costs are accepted via our Patreon. We're also listed on Plural Hub! Follow this link to see more plural communities and resources.
This instance uses Mutant Standard emoji made by Dzuk, which are licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-NonCommercial-ShareAlike 4.0 International License. The instance's header artwork is made by @Mous.
The Plural Café administrators can be reached via email at admin [AT] plural [DOT] cafe, or alternatively by direct messaging the administrators listed in the @Barkeep description.
What is Mastodon?
From joyeusenoelle's An Increasingly Less-Brief Guide to Mastodon:
Mastodon is Twitter-style social networking combined with email-style instanced servers. It's named after the metal band, but themed after the extinct megafauna.
Each Mastodon instance is independent but networked, like email servers. If you sign up for an email account on gmail.com, you don't automatically have an account on hotmail.com or aol.com, but you can send and receive messages to and from users on hotmail.com and aol.com.
Likewise, if you sign up for an account on mastodon.social, that doesn't make an account for you on every other instance, but you can talk to users from other instances and they can talk to you.
What is Plurality?
From Plurality Resource:
The most simplified definition of the term plural that includes all people who take the label is “someone who shares the same physical body with other individuals.” Such a group is sometimes referred to as a system, though many plural groups use different terminology. Because plurality can take many vastly different forms, it is difficult to expand this definition without excluding someone who might otherwise share characteristics or concerns with most other members of the community. It does seem this basic trait is the only thing groups of people who refer to themselves as plural universally share. In other words, there are many, many ways to be plural, and no two systems are the same even as far as basic characteristics. There are a lot of trends in the community, however, and various types within the umbrella term of plural that seem to be subsets.
There is a prevailing theory in the community that sees plurality as a spectrum going from singlet (one person in one physical body) to median (a term describing groups that have one main member plus others who are somewhat separate) to multiple (a group of distinct individuals in which more than one person can take control of the physical body). Groups who deviate from these subsets are seen as occupying an in-between ground along the spectrum.
More information can be found on More Than One, Healthy Multiplicity, Tulpa.io, or the Blackbirds' Layman's Guide to Multiplicity.
Instance Rules
All new registrations follow @Barkeep by default, but can be unfollowed. Instance administrators and moderators are listed on that account's profile. By signing up to Plural Café, you agree to the following rules:
Keep Content Appropriate
- You must be at least thirteen years old (in body age) to join this instance. If you are found to be younger than this age, your account will be suspended and you will be asked to return when you are older.
- No spam or blatant advertising.
- Do not promote illegal activities. Discussing the effect of drug use on plurality is allowed behind a Content Warning, but promotion or suggestion is not allowed.
- Mature/NSFW discussion, as well as explicit content and pornography should be tagged under a Content Warning. Sexual solicitation are not allowed anywhere on this instance, including explicit images or links.
- Any content that includes highly traumatic topics (specifically: abuse, self-harm, suicide, rape) or graphic or explicit discussions must also be hidden behind a Content Warning.
- Respect copyright and artists. Do not post links to pirated material, and do not use art without crediting the original artist. Link to an artist's site directly rather than hotlinking or uploading the image if at all possible. In addition, if an artist requests that you do not repost their work, respect their request.
- #nobot rules are enforced. Any bot that ignores #nobot being placed in a user's profile bio will result in Plural Cafe staff warning the bot administrator first, and being blocked if it continues.
Respect Other Users
- Respect the identities, experiences, and personhood of others. People have their own subjective realities, and "science" is not an excuse to invalidate others. Personal attacks, aggression (passive or otherwise), harassment, and trolling of any kind (including concern trolling and mocking of identities, such as otherkin identities) are not permitted.
- We do not allow users to demean or talk down to others, regardless of whether the other is a daemon, a tulpa, or a multiple systemmate. In other words, we do not treat anyone here, regardless of what kind of systemmate they may be, as less or more "real" than another member, or their opinions or feelings as less valid than another's. We are an inclusive instance of all system types. If you are anti-endogenic or otherwise anti-inclusive, and request that other system types not contact you, you should find another instance. We will not respond to reports or pings that complain about a person of a different system type replying to a post or something similarly benign. We judge posts by their content, not the identities of their author.
- Bigotry, hate and prejudice--be it racism, sexism, transphobia, ableism, or homophobia--will not be tolerated. Please also respect the pronouns of systems and system members listed in their profile bio. (This does not extend to nounself/neopronouns if there are a lot of system members to remember. When in doubt: singular they.) Ableism, such as by calling out names regarding their mental capacity, pointing out behavior as mental illness as an insult, making fun of folks who experience learning disabilities or autism spectrum disorder, have language speaking deficiencies- whether by a condition or by not being a primary English speaker, and making light of any physical disabilities a person experiences. The golden rule is "don't be a jerk".
- Respect the beliefs of others. You have a right to request proof for extraordinary claims that affect physical reality (e.g. systemmates manifesting physically, lighting trees on fire with thought alone). However, if someone's belief is inherently harmless and ultimately unprovable (like believing other worlds exist or that a systemmate is a spirit), "proof or die" attitudes and belief shaming will not be tolerated. (You are still welcome to state your own beliefs respectfully ("this is how I believe things to be" rather than "this is how things actually are") if they are relevant to the discussion rather than you "correcting" someone's beliefs. For example, in a status asking if systemmates will enter an afterlife, "there is no such thing as an afterlife" is not accepted, but "I personally do not believe in souls, or an afterlife. But if they do exist, I don't see why not" is a-okay.)
- While you are welcome to debate, please remain respectful and use proper logic (i.e. no ad-hominem) to back up your points--previously stated rules regarding respecting identity, experiences, and personhood are still in play. You have the right to ask respectful questions (e.g. "Why do you believe in an afterlife if there's no physical evidence for souls?") and to politely decline questions that you don't care to answer--you do not have the right to insult others (e.g. "You're pathetic for believing in souls") or attack people for politely asking questions about your beliefs.
- Do not impersonate others. Impersonating others will result in an immediate suspension.
Respect The Community
- Be mindful of what is being uploaded. Unlist or restrict to followers sensitive content. You can also restrict toots to local only.
- Using alternate accounts to evade blocks/suspends/silences, whether on the same instance or another instance, is prohibited.
- Do not leak personal information, whether you are leaking a member's physical-world identity here or spreading identifying information posted on this instance elsewhere. This includes users engaging in the purpose of mocking or "spreading dirt" on other users here. Doxxing, brigading, dogpiling, stalking, harassing, and other similar attacks against a person's right to exist without you, are explicitly prohibited. Post potentially identifiable information at your own risk.
- Plural Café administrators reserves the right to revoke a user's posting ability at any time. These rules may also change at any time.
Penalties: With the exception of offenses specifying immediate suspensions and obvious spamming/trolling, violations will result first in warning, then in temporary silencing of your account, then in suspension. Particularly blatant offenses will result in immediate suspensions, including and especially threatening to harm another member.
Other Instances: As with the Penalties section above, users on other instances that violate these rules in the process of communicating with users on this instance are held to the penalties listed in said section. Instance administrators that run afoul of the violations may find their instance completely silenced and/or suspended, depending on the severity of the rule.
Unavailable content
Mastodon generally allows you to view content from and interact with users from any other server in the fediverse. These are the exceptions that have been made on this particular server.
Media files from these servers will not be processed or stored, and and no thumbnails will be displayed, requiring manual click-through to the original file:
| Server | Reason |
|---|---|
| fedi.z0ne.moe | instance admin harassing users |
| flr.social | |
| gulp.cafe | instance admin harassing others unprovoked |
| kinkyelephant.com | |
| mastodon.cyber-tribal.com | instance not moderating spam |
| pleroma.weirdart.space | CoC allows content that isn’t legal where we're located |
| twimblr.xyz | |
| anime.website | the usual suspects, transphobia etc. |
Posts from these servers will be hidden in public timelines and conversations, and no notifications will be generated from their users' interactions, unless you are following them:
| Server | Reason |
|---|---|
| botsin.space | cleaning up federated timeline due to bots basically dominating everything in it and not being unlisted - bots can still follow and be followed, and can show up in timelines if followed |
| cryptids.online | instance allows users to be ableist against others |
| mirrored.social | |
| newsbots.eu | |
| fedi.z0ne.moe | instance admin harassing users |
| flr.social | |
| gulp.cafe | instance admin harassing others unprovoked |
| kinkyelephant.com | |
| mastodon.cyber-tribal.com | instance not moderating spam |
| pleroma.weirdart.space | CoC allows content that isn’t legal where we're located |
| twimblr.xyz |
No data from these servers will be processed, stored or exchanged, making any interaction or communication with users from these servers impossible:
| Server | Reason |
|---|---|
| accela.online | the usual garbage, transphobia etc. |
| afterlife.masto.host | single user instance created for block evasion |
| albin.social | followbots / data mining |
| aria.company | the usual suspects, transphobia etc. |
| aspirant.de | runs a followbot, no ToS |
| baraag.net | |
| beehub.org | misogyny, right-wing paranoia |
| bitcoinhackers.org | no admin contact information, no ToS, and at least one user that’s enjoying that |
| blob.cat | Pedophilia defenders, freespeechextremist/Kiwifarms association etc. |
| boop.link | gleefully transmisogynistic single-user instance |
| catgirl.life | sealioning & pepes from instance admin |
| cawfee.club | racist and anti-semitic content |
| chat.cdstm.ch | hate speech |
| cliterati.club | terf instance |
| comm.network | |
| counter.social | respecting their desire to have a safe space for True Americans. see: https://github.com/dzuk-mutant/blockchain/blob/master/list/instances/counter_social/counter_social.md |
| disarray.nof.st | freeze peach instance |
| ehjovan.com | |
| explosion.party | |
| fedi.absturztau.be | Pedophilia defenders, freespeechextremist/Kiwifarms association etc. |
| fedichive.tk | doing archiving without permission |
| fosstodon.org | Views expressed by the admin of said instance and many of its users is fundamentally incompatible with this instance's code of conduct and my personal values. |
| freefedifollowers.ga | Follower spam |
| freespeech.firedragonstudios.com | https://plush.city/@announcements/101355494328483592 |
| freespeech.host | freeze peach |
| freespeechextremist.com | fascist instance |
| friends.nico | |
| functor.pro | nazi content |
| fybuk.com | unusual activity, possibly data mining |
| gab.ai | |
| gab.com | nazi haven |
| gab.sleeck.eu | |
| gabfed.com | nazi haven |
| gameliberty.club | instance violates our CoC |
| gendercritical.club | these are domains owned by the known TERF admin of spinster.xyz who is offering them to anyone who wants to set up more (presumably TERF) instances. |
| gendercritical.space | these are domains owned by the known TERF admin of spinster.xyz who is offering them to anyone who wants to set up more (presumably TERF) instances. |
| gleasonator.com | Another Alex Gleason instance |
| goldandblack.xyz | |
| hitchhiker.social | freezepeach |
| humblr.social | sensitive content in avatar images, not responding to requests to take down avatar (in response to report on plural.cafe) |
| ihatebeinga.live | Pedophilia defenders, freespeechextremist/Kiwifarms association etc. |
| inditoot.com | indian fascist instance, see: https://rage.love/@kyzh/103114979791700224 |
| jimlunsford.com | successor instance to socialnetwork.ninja |
| juche.town | tankies |
| justicewarrior.social | another free speech instance, they sure do wear it on their sleeve |
| kiwifarms.cc | |
| kiwifarms.is | |
| kiwifarms.net | |
| kyot.me | |
| kys.moe | fascist instance |
| lets.bemoe.online | Pedophilia defenders, freespeechextremist/Kiwifarms association etc. |
| lets.saynoto.lgbt | homophobic content |
| liberdon.com | |
| libre.tube | hosting murder videos, racist content, … |
| ligma.pro | |
| linuxrocks.online | The admin has declared that they will not be censoring any political view. Y'all know what that is euphemism is for. https://linuxrocks.online/@omnipotens/102413781983979638 |
| liveview.cf | homophobia and data scraper, see: https://barkshark.tk/@izaliamae/103019728038699525 |
| mastodon.macsnet.cz | CoC violations by instance admin |
| melalandia.tk | untagged loli porn w/ public visibility; freezepeach instance |
| mobile.co | see: https://plush.city/@announcements/101355494328483592 |
| mstdn.foxfam.club | fascist instance |
| mstdn.io | admin has declared that they do not consider Gab an issue at the moment and will not be moderating them. see https://mstdn.io/@admin/102402617572153831 and https://pipou.academy/@darckcrystale/102399333220011084 |
| music.pawoo.net | |
| neckbeard.xyz | racism, anti-Semitism, the usual shit |
| neenster.org | Gab/spinster fork by known antisemite |
| networked.space | "low key freeze peach,” in their own words |
| niu.moe | |
| noagenda.social | |
| noagendasocial.com | podcast dudebro brigade, no CoC, admin violations of our CoC |
| nomoresha.me | supportive of transphobia |
| nordenmedia.com | Nazi Peertube instance |
| oneway.masto.host | https://elekk.xyz/@noelle/102186124507278817 |
| ost.social | gab instance |
| patch.cx | nazi content |
| pawoo.net | |
| peertube.se | Nazi Peertube instance |
| pieville.net | nazi haven |
| piggo.space | transphobia |
| pixfed.com | transmisia and harassment from admin w/ multiple instances (@Snder@quey.org) |
| pl.765racing.com | racism originating from moderator, see https://social.libre.fi/objects/7b0eebb0-7834-4a73-961b-6fae8ed8309e |
| pl.kys.moe | fascist instance |
| pl.pube.tk | their CoC bans “homosexual activity,” so we’re just helping them out |
| pl.smuglo.li | freeze peach haven |
| pl.wowana.me | fascist instance |
| pleroma.cloud | |
| pleroma.cucked.me | |
| pleroma.kiwifarms.net | |
| pleroma.soykaf.com | |
| polaris-1.work | |
| preteengirls.biz | |
| qoto.org | this instance bills itself as a free speech zone, no moderation as long as it is legal. |
| quey.org | transmisia and harassment from admin w/ multiple instances (@Snder@quey.org) |
| rcsocial.net | incompatible TOS (“Christian free speech”) |
| rightmastodon.com | fascist instance |
| robo.super-niche.club | the usual garbage |
| shigusegubu.club | source of homophobic and anti-Semitic content. |
| shitasstits.life | |
| shitposter.club | haven for harassment |
| sinblr.com | explicitly allowing untagged adult graphic content and intention to essentially sell follower numbers via their Patreon. see https://cdmx.rocks/@v/101264156972348641 |
| sleeck.eu | gab instance |
| soc.h4x.group | freezepeach |
| social.culturewar.us | freeze peach |
| social.hatthieves.es | Follow bot + no ToS |
| social.homunyan.com | |
| social.i2p.rocks | |
| social.librem.one | details here: https://social.libre.fi/objects/8e2a5d7a-e9c1-4466-a7e9-8b650e4a3035 |
| social.lucci.xyz | |
| social.privacytools.io | |
| social.quodverum.com | Russian state sponsored alt-right recruitment forum/blog |
| social.seattle.wa.us | no moderation of users |
| social.sunshinegardens.org | |
| social.tchncs.de | |
| social.wiuwiu.de | |
| social.xeltica.work | domain full of follow bots |
| socialnetwork.ninja | single-user instance run by some cop |
| socnet.supes.com | freezepeach |
| speakfree.world | |
| spinster.dev | gab instance |
| spinster.xyz | gab instance |
| stereophonic.space | fascist instance |
| sunshinegardens.org | |
| take.iteasy.club | this is just fl0wn's new instance (admin of sealion.club which has been suspended for a while) |
| the.hedgehoghunter.club | freezepeach instance / single-user / transmisia |
| thechad.zone | |
| toot.love | freezepeach instance. https://vulpine.club/@mxsparks_afterlight/100777434627353036 |
| wagesofsinisdeath.com | homophobia and transphobia |
| weeaboo.space | successor instance to masto.quad.moe (see above) https://vulpine.club/@mxsparks_afterlight/100656813050141179 |
| weedis.life | gab instance, and using instance to ddos others |
| wxw.moe | |
| xn--6r8h.tk | source of racism and antisemitism. Example: hxxps://xn--6r8h.tk/notes/5c9a2eae26a9874947de6bf7 |
| anime.website | the usual suspects, transphobia etc. |