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Welcome to the Plural Café!

Grab a hot cocoa or coffee from the bar, kick back and relax. This is a Mastodon instance that is focused around fostering a friendly and welcoming community for plural systems and plural-friendly singlets alike. Multiple accounts for each systemmate is also allowed, if you choose!

For our Privacy Policy and server information, see our Terms of Service page. We're also listed on Plural Hub! Follow this link to see more plural communities and resources.

The Plural Café administrators can be reached via email at admin [AT] plural [DOT] cafe, or alternatively by direct messaging the administrators listed in the @Barkeep description.

What is Mastodon?

From joyeusenoelle's An Increasingly Less-Brief Guide to Mastodon:

Mastodon is Twitter-style social networking combined with email-style instanced servers. It's named after the metal band, but themed after the extinct megafauna.

Each Mastodon instance is independent but networked, like email servers. If you sign up for an email account on gmail.com, you don't automatically have an account on hotmail.com or aol.com, but you can send and receive messages to and from users on hotmail.com and aol.com.

Likewise, if you sign up for an account on mastodon.social, that doesn't make an account for you on every other instance, but you can talk to users from other instances and they can talk to you.

What is Plurality?

From Plurality Resource:

The most simplified definition of the term plural that includes all people who take the label is “someone who shares the same physical body with other individuals.” Such a group is sometimes referred to as a system, though many plural groups use different terminology. Because plurality can take many vastly different forms, it is difficult to expand this definition without excluding someone who might otherwise share characteristics or concerns with most other members of the community. It does seem this basic trait is the only thing groups of people who refer to themselves as plural universally share. In other words, there are many, many ways to be plural, and no two systems are the same even as far as basic characteristics. There are a lot of trends in the community, however, and various types within the umbrella term of plural that seem to be subsets.

There is a prevailing theory in the community that sees plurality as a spectrum going from singlet (one person in one physical body) to median (a term describing groups that have one main member plus others who are somewhat separate) to multiple (a group of distinct individuals in which more than one person can take control of the physical body). Groups who deviate from these subsets are seen as occupying an in-between ground along the spectrum.

More information can be found on More Than One, Healthy Multiplicity, Tulpa.io, or the Blackbirds' Layman's Guide to Multiplicity.

Instance Rules

All new registrations follow @Barkeep by default, but may unfollow them. Instance administrators and moderators are listed on that account's profile. By signing up to Plural Café, you agree to the following rules:

  1. Your behavior here should uphold our Values and create a welcoming environment.
  2. Posts must follow the "Required Content Warnings" policy.
  3. Bot accounts and automated posts must meet our bot policy.
  4. You must be at least thirteen years old (in body age) to join this instance.
  5. No spam. No paid or sponsored advertisements. Self-promotion (including posting your own work, opening commission slots, etc.) is allowed.
  6. Respect the identities, experiences, and personhood of others. Personal attacks, aggression (passive or otherwise), harassment, and trolling of any kind are not permitted.
  7. Fraudulently impersonating others will result in an immediate suspension.
  8. While sexual content is allowed (when properly content warned), encouraging, promoting, or posting about engaging in the following kinds of real-world sexual activity is not. This is not meant to stop survivors from talking about their experiences or consenting adults from talking about similar-looking kink and roleplay experiences.
    • nonconsensual sexual activity and sexual assault
    • sexual activity involving minors and folks in bodies under the age of 18 (including fictional depictions)
    • sexual activity involving animals
  9. The following kinds of content, and encouraging or promoting them, are not permitted and are subject to removal:
    • Credible threats of violence
    • Doxxing and other kinds of privacy violation
    • Copyright and other intellectual property infringement
    • Promoting or selling illegal drugs
    • Other content illegal in New Jersey, the United States, or that would cause us to break the terms of service of our hosting provider Linode.
  10. These rules may change at any time.

Values

Plural.cafe aims to be a welcoming space for all plural systems and plural-friendly singlets. Our goal is to create and maintain a space that is:

  • inclusive of all kinds of systems
    • including but not limited to traumagenic, endogenic, and tulpamancy systems, as well as those who do not care or do not know their origins
    • including disordered, undiagnosed, and non-disordered systems
    • against sysmedicalism / anti-endogenic attitudes
  • welcoming to all kinds of headmates
  • alterhuman friendly
    • including nonhuman, otherkin, therian, fictive, furry, etc. experiences
  • queer and lgbt+ friendly
    • nonbinary inclusive
    • aromantic and asexual inclusive
    • against transmedicalism
  • accepting of just generally being weird
  • anti-racist
  • anti-sexist
    • against gender essentialism
  • anti-fascist
  • anti-ableist
  • anti-classist
  • anti-harassment
    • note that posting screenshots of other people's toots with the intent of mocking or enabling harassment against them ("screenshot dunking") is considered harassment
    • posting screenshots of other people's toots to warn others about their behavior is not harassment
    • block evasion (using another account to talk to someone who has blocked you) is harassment, even when the block is of a different headmate
  • body positive
  • sex and kink positive
    • Keep in mind that this instance and the fediverse at large are shared spaces with minors and sex-repulsed or traumatized individuals. Content warnings are required for sexual content, and sexual images must be marked as sensitive.
  • sex worker positive
    • For legal reasons, soliciting in-person/full-service sex work is prohibited on this instance.
  • welcoming to all sorts of religious and spiritual beliefs

Required Content Warnings

These topics must have a content warning when posted at "public" or "unlisted" visibility. They do not have to be content warned on "followers-only" posts on locked accounts that mention them in the bio or a pinned toot. Images with these must be marked sensitive.

  • the covid-19/coronavirus pandemic
  • abuse
  • alcohol
  • body fluids
  • death
  • drugs
  • food and eating
  • flashing or rapidly moving images
  • genitalia
  • graphic violence and gore
  • misinformation and unreality
  • self harm
  • sex and/or kink
    • We recommend *not* using "nsfw" in your content warning.
  • sexual assault
  • suicide and ideation

Note that discussion of politics, racism, other forms of oppression, venting, etc. are *not* on this list. We still recommend being considerate of your fellow café-goers and using content warnings for potentially sensitive, hurtful, or triggering posts.

Technical note: an image-only toot cannot have a content warning. We recommend using a single ".", 🖼️, or other character in the toot body so that it displays properly.

Bot & Automated Posts Policies

In addition to the above, these rules apply to automated posts and bot accounts.

  • Automated posts (e.g. bot posts and Twitter crossposts) should not have the "public" privacy setting.
  • Bots must not follow or interact with users who haven't opted in or interacted with them. Opt-out with the "#nobot" tag is not enough.
  • Bots must have the "This is a bot account" option set in their profile.

Moderation Tools

These are the tools available to moderators for resolving rules violations. Except for particularly severe cases, no action will be taken against local user accounts without discussion or warning. Beyond that, the exact tools used will depend on the situation and are up to moderator discretion.

  • Marking images as sensitive
  • Deleting toots
    • Deleted toots may still be accessible on other instances, but will no longer appear on plural.cafe.
  • Discussion with the user(s) involved
  • Warning
  • Temporarily disable login (for local accounts)
  • Silence
    • Toots from a silenced account do not appear on the local or federated timeline.
  • Suspend
    • This deletes a local account. Deleted local accounts cannot be recovered.
    • For a remote account, the server effectively pretends the account does not exist. No toots can be sent to or from that account and it will not be searchable.

    Federation Policy

    Plural.cafe federates with other instances, so their content appears in your home or our federated timeline. Our values and server rules apply to all content here, including posts sent to us by other instances. In many cases, we can deal with issues by taking action against a single remote user. If an instance admin or multiple users are causing issues we may also reject content from, silence, or suspend the entire instance.

    Because of the way federation works, an instance that does not block instances with known harassers may forward posts from here to them. We may suspend instances that knowingly and intentionally federate with any instance we suspend.

    Our full block list is presented below so that people on plural.cafe or interested in joining know why they can't get content from specific instances.

Unavailable content

Mastodon generally allows you to view content from and interact with users from any other server in the fediverse. These are the exceptions that have been made on this particular server.

Media files from these servers will not be processed or stored, and no thumbnails will be displayed, requiring manual click-through to the original file:

Server Reason
wake.st
fedi.z0ne.moe
flr.social
gulp.cafe
kinkyelephant.com
mastodon.cyber-tribal.com
pleroma.weirdart.space
twimblr.xyz
anime.website
my.dirtyhobby.xyz

Posts from these servers will be hidden in public timelines and conversations, and no notifications will be generated from their users' interactions, unless you are following them:

Server Reason
botsin.space
cryptids.online
fedi.be
mastodon.starrevolution.org
mirrored.social
newsbots.eu
skull.website
soc.safebook.space
todon.nl
toomanycooks.social
fedi.z0ne.moe
flr.social
gulp.cafe
kinkyelephant.com
mastodon.cyber-tribal.com
pleroma.weirdart.space
twimblr.xyz

No data from these servers will be processed, stored or exchanged, making any interaction or communication with users from these servers impossible:

Server Reason
accela.online
activism.openworlds.info
afterlife.masto.host
albin.social
archivefedifor.fun
aria.company
aspirant.de
baraag.net
be.cutewith.me
beehub.org
bikeshed.party
bitcoinhackers.org
blackmesa.space
blob.cat
blovice.bahnhof.cz
boop.link
buckeye.social
busshi.moe
calculate.social
carrot.army
catgirl.life
cawfee.club
chat.cdstm.ch
cliterati.club
comm.network
coom.club
counter.social
crypto-group-buy.com
desvox.es
dickkickextremist.xyz
dickshow.social
disarray.nof.st
dystopian.space
enigmatic.observer
expired.mentality.rip
explosion.party
faithcollapsing.com
fedi.absturztau.be
fedi.valkyrie.world
fedichive.tk
firebird.zone
floppy.tokyo
fosstodon.org
freefedifollowers.ga
freespeech.firedragonstudios.com
freespeech.host
freespeechextremist.com
friends.deko.cloud
friends.nico
functor.pro
fybuk.com
gab.ai
gab.com
gab.sleeck.eu
gabfed.com
gameliberty.club
gamers.exposed
gecekafasi.com
gendercritical.club
gendercritical.space
gleasonator.com
gleasonator.dev
glindr.org
gluten.space
goldandblack.xyz
hagra.net
hitchhiker.social
humblr.social
husk.site
ihatebeinga.live
inditoot.com
iscute.moe
jaeger.website
jimlunsford.com
jpop.club
juche.town
justicewarrior.social
kag.social
kitsune.cafe
kitty.social
kiwifarms.cc
kiwifarms.is
kiwifarms.net
kodlomrazi.ru
kompost.cz
kyot.me
kys.moe
lain.com
lets.bemoe.online
lets.saynoto.lgbt
letsalllovela.in
liberdon.com
libre.tube
librem.one
ligma.pro
linuxrocks.online
liveview.cf
lizards.live
masto.faeriewood.social
mastodon.cloud
mastodon.grin.hu
mastodon.hatthieves.es
mastodon.macsnet.cz
mastodon.madrid
mastodon.org.uk
melalandia.tk
micca.xyz
mobile.co
mstdn.foxfam.club
mstdn.io
mu.zaitcev.nu
music.pawoo.net
neckbeard.xyz
neenster.org
networked.space
niu.moe
noagenda.social
noagendasocial.com
nomoresha.me
nordenmedia.com
nsfw.social
nulled.red
oneway.masto.host
ost.social
outerheaven.club
panthermodern.net
patch.cx
pawoo.net
peertube.se
pieville.net
piggo.space
pixfed.com
pl.765racing.com
pl.kys.moe
pl.pube.tk
pl.skyn3t.in
pl.smuglo.li
pl.wowana.me
pleroma.cloud
pleroma.cucked.me
pleroma.hatthieves.es
pleroma.kiwifarms.net
pleroma.mouse.services
pleroma.pandanet.moe
pleroma.site
pleroma.soykaf.com
pleroma.wolfie.pw
polaris-1.work
preteengirls.biz
princess.cat
prout.social
qoto.org
quey.org
raplst.town
rawr-xd.club
rcsocial.net
rightmastodon.com
robo.super-niche.club
search.fedi.app
shigusegubu.club
shitasstits.life
shitposter.club
shpposter.club
sinblr.com
skippers-bin.com
sleeck.eu
soc.h4x.group
social.byoblu.com
social.culturewar.us
social.foxfam.club
social.hatthieves.es
social.homunyan.com
social.i2p.rocks
social.inex.rocks
social.lucci.xyz
social.privacytools.io
social.quodverum.com
social.sakamoto.gq
social.seattle.wa.us
social.sunshinegardens.org
social.tchncs.de
social.wiuwiu.de
social.xeltica.work
socially.whimsic.al
socialnetwork.ninja
society.oftrolls.com
socnet.supes.com
speakfree.world
spinster.dev
spinster.xyz
stereophonic.space
subcon.pub
sunshinegardens.org
take.iteasy.club
tebukuro.pw
the.hedgehoghunter.club
thechad.zone
thewired.xyz
toast.cafe
toot.love
toot.zone
tower.xyzzy.link
tuusin.misono-ya.info
udongein.xyz
uwu.social
veenus.art
video.nobodyhasthe.biz
wagesofsinisdeath.com
weeaboo.space
weedis.life
witches.live
wolfhowl.me
wxw.moe
x0f.org
xn--6r8h.tk
yang.social
yggdrasil.social
yorishiro.space
anime.website
my.dirtyhobby.xyz