cw abuse, hyperempathy, mental health
I've discovered that I refuse to have affective empathy for people who are abusing me specifically.
I am a big believer in having compassion for all human beings, including people who are abusive, because abuse is contextual. We are all capable of being abusive. Most of us have been abused and abused others, even if in "small" ways like verbal abuse.
I am capable of imaginatively understanding where people who hurt me are coming from once I have some distance from them. My mom for instance is often a cool and nice person, she is under a lot of stress, and I know she loves me...
...But when she's yelling at me that I'm a coddled brat and I'm lucky that she doesn't kick me out of the house, I don't really care about her feelings. I can't. I can't empathize with the hate and contempt she's directing at me.
I am frustrated that people like my therapists (who incidentally have power over me) think my protecting myself this way makes me "mean". :/
Also I'm having the slight frustration that if I can't PERFECTLY name my alters I feel like they're not real, even if I definitely have dissociative/splitting issues. sIGH.
Sorry that I'm not on this instance very much. I think I'd like to come back and do more furryblogging or genderblogging, but discovering how my biracial but white-passing body affects how I engage with the intersections of nonwhiteness and furry culture or nonwhiteness and gender has been keeping me busy.
support a black “creative” AKA black law student
I saw people talking about supporting black creatives, so I thought I would participate. I’m not a creative by career but I do some creative things on the side.
I’m a gay, black, trans guy who is a 2L in law school. Like many legal interns, I’m working for free this summer at a nonprofit. I work to help the wrongly incarcerated make cases for exoneration. The vast majority of my clients are black and brown men.
My law school is supplying some aid this summer, but it’s nowhere near the amount of what a paralegal makes (and we generally have more schooling!).
My CashApp is $lucifugel.
Anything would be appreciated. I am working hard to become a lawyer that defends the rights of minorities like myself!#transcrowdfund#blm
hey. I'm sorry I know I asked for help before with groceries but my job isn't paying me anymore while I have to be on leave because I'm immunocompromised
they never even told me they would cut me off it's weird and they go about how there's no penalty but they're not doing shit for folks
absolutely no obligation but if y'all can spare anything during this anything helps
many people justify their individualism with "human nature." this is absurd given, like, everything we know about human people, particularly human people who didn't live under capitalism
we have archaeological evidence that our prehistoric ancestors kept their physically disabled community members fed for the rest of their natural life, their bones marking decades of growth after disabling injuries and congenital abnormalities
our prehistoric ancestors undertook trepanation to save the lives of those of our ancestors who were facing fatal brain inflammation, and then kept these people, their collective responsibility who would forever be liable to develop infections and may additionally have had disabling complications of the brain swelling, alive for additional decades
and when the disabled among prehistoric societies died, as all people eventually must, our prehistoric ancestors buried them with love, care, and respect
"human nature" as capitalist pessimism knows it is propaganda
blue lives literally don't exist. you are not born a cop, you choose to become a cop, and can quit being a cop. it is an intentional bastardization of the actual legit black lives matter movement that they are able to reinforce by using their state influence to get their propaganda on licence plates and merchandise
hello fellow white people. it's easy to post "fuck the police" and say "i would never call the police" and listen to millions of dead cops and think 1312 thoughts but! have you considered what you would do INSTEAD of calling the fash? no? how about a lil homework:
deescalation seminar: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hrqfxEkE1n0
12 things to do instead: https://www.sproutdistro.com/2017/07/28/new-zine-12-things-cops/amp/
not being a bystander: https://vimeo.com/199947156
Some kind of multiple.
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