Re-doing our #introductions AGAIN because of the name change.
https://hartstead.carrd.co/ for up-to-date details and more info.
The primary front is Rai 🦁, they are nonbinary, married to a singlet. Likes lions and video games.
Skyler is a common fronter, helps with protection and emotions. He's fond of computers, coding, EDM, and video games.
Storm 🌩️ has been getting more comfortable with front, so you may see him around. High-energy dragon-person with an affinity for... storms. He likes bottle caps, spicy food, and cats.
Rory is a mostly non-verbal little, possibly a literal lion cub. They communicate mostly in noises or pictures when fronting. They like to sleep and eat creamy things.
There are others who rarely front, but you may hear mention of them. Pepper, Stone, The Twins, and probably some others.
I have a training thing I'm attending tomorrow, except I have a sneaking suspicion I'm not attending it.
There's a frantic excitement about it that feels like Storm.
Soooooo we'll see how that plays out. I don't WANT to be there anyway, the trainer is an asshole. we've had a course from him before.
It was a "productivity and time management" course and he spent most of it connecting time management to money, promoting his financial services, and talking about his rich friends.
He asked us how much something to do with selling a house was, and refused to believe that none of the 20 of us in the room knew. Clearly we all play the property market like he does!!
Also told us we were robbing taxpayers by not napping at work.
So I'd rather not be there. But Storm is such a fucking handful. do I want him to be there??
Self harm mention, but humorous
She asked about it again so I had to double down on my absolutely ridiculous lie.
Yep. I fell. On what? Uh. You know, around. It was a couple months ago, I'm not sure. No, I don't fall often. But that definitely was one.
At this point I think she knows it's a lie... So maybe.... Don't ask.
I'm honest about it for the most part with people, but my boss is not one of those people. Past stuff is fine, but no current stuff that could theoretically be impacting my job. Because capitalism.
Self harm mention, but humorous
Asdfggjjllyyt God it's been so long since anyone bothered to ask about my self harm I forgot how to lie about it!!!
Like. I have very obvious marks all over my arms and don't try to hide them. Their precise nature makes it clear what they are, and in general people don't ask.
But I have some ~2 month old scars on my upper arms that caught my boss's notice today.
"what happened to your arm?"
"....................... I fell?"
I fell. I FELL. I fell?? Really? That was the best I could scrounge up?
but .... it was very wholesome because the image I got immediately in my head was me stroking Rory's lil head comfortingly, and then......... Skyler stroking my head asdfajshk
Cute, but unexpected.
and apparently Pepper fronted last night. *scratches out the "hasn't fronted in a long time notice*
thankful it was a cold, dreary weekday becaaaaause she was absolutely messaging people trying to hook up. Pls. I woke up to a lot of messages.
if I tell my therapist tomorrow i'm engaging in risky sex habits it's going to be 200x harder to convince her I'm not bipolar.
(nothing wrong with being bipolar obvs, it's just what I got diagnosed with back in college and it refuses to leave my records even though I 100% don't have manic episodes)
therapy, sui mention
I have my first real actual voluntary therapy session tomorrow.
I feel. Nervous. very nervous.
Last time we went to therapy, it was not by choice, and it led to the implosion of the system.
I'm not going back there. I dunno, I feel very fake a lot of the time but I feel scared thinking of being alone like that again.
I don't even have to tell this therapist about ~us~
It's just brief intervention crisis counseling stuff because I told my doctor I left a suicide note in my files at work.
I would like it to lead to proper more thorough therapy. But to start with it's just weh I'm sad and overwhelmed.
so there's not really any danger to us. but I'm still nervous. What if they're not a good therapist, what if they don't get gender stuff, what if it makes everything worse, what if they say I have to stop working
it'll be fine. probably.
depression meme 2: electric boogaloo
I made another meme because lesson 2 told me to use a "thought monitoring form" but it's not IN the downloadable resources, and all the generic ones I find online aren't Exactly The Same and I'm Upset 🙃
which would be a great thing to record in a thought monitoring form
IF I HAD ONE.
My doctor referred me to an online course about coping with depression while I wait for the intervention crisis counseling thing and the first course was........ so 101 it was painful.
I know it has to start from ground 0 so it's accessible to everyone. And I do genuinely hope it helps some because I've been in a pit of "my depression is chronic it will never get better" for ages. Which is not accurate. It may never be cured but I can definitely cope better, and I need to.
But still. The first course left me feeling like the "I know more than you" meme.
i'm Emotional knowing I've made a small difference in the way two children will be raised in this world.
for my two coworkers (one expecting a baby, one just delivered), I'm the only non-binary person they've ever met who's been out and open and vocal about it. i did a big talk at work about my gender and the way I was raised. And both of them have told me about how that will impact the way they raise their children.
Maybe those kids turn out to be cis and het, but regardless they will grow up with their parents knowing and accepting that they don't HAVE to be. And that will in turn impact the way they in turn view LGBTQ+ people. It's good feelings.
Huh. This actually very precisely addresses one of our insecurities:
hey i'm sorry if this is worded weird but- is it common for alters and the consciousness to feel like... separate things? like we have switches pretty regularly but it never feels like 'stepping back' and the person who fronts changes but it still feels like the same consciousness. like we all just experience the world through the same camera, the only difference is who's holding it? sorry again if this is confusing
Yes, that’s not only common in median systems but in all other kinds of systems too.
Home again bc I couldn't stop crying at work everything is just too much and overwhelming and I need it to stop. I've been frontstuck and feeling alone in my head mostly for weeks and I don't like it I thought we were all in this together
I took quetiapine for the first time in a long time, 1/8th or less dosage than I was on, but I forget what it's like haha. I know factually I get restless leg syndrome and I drool, but feeling it start happening is wild.
Newbie is just like. floating on the edge. slamming the breaks didn't seem to do much except put an awkward rift between us so that's fun.
When I feel him though it's such a nice comforting presence, i don't really have any reason to try to keep him out. Like, he doesn't fit the "vibe" of the rest of us, and I'm nervous as hell about factives just because of syscourse stuff. But those aren't real reasons.
Might try calling him Tomas for now (The Old Man And (the) Sea), because I don't want to use his source name and he has no interest in picking out a new one. Need to take some time and like. Try to consciously accept him I think. Instead of just skirting around it. Headspace is muddled with him because there was previously no accounting for an ocean.
The Pride (subsystem): Rai/Rory/Stone
The rest: Skyler/Storm/Pepper and more
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