the Panda system @the_panda_system@plural.cafe

my secret is to be gay for enbies

Question to #polyamory fediverse: someone from one of our group chats recently opened up their relationship with their spouse, and while things are going well, they're feeling the lack of a specifically Christian polyamory community to talk through things with. Are there any resources y'all'd recommend passing along to them - communities, advice columnists, YouTube channels, blogs, whatever?

🔁 ☑️ #askMastodon #askFediverse

Important announcement:

I found out through a mutual that it's #SystemPrideDay.

If you're a system, I hope you can celebrate your identities and victories in a singlet-centered world. It takes strength to exist and thrive out there. 💖

women do friendship face to face, men do friendship side by side, enbies do friendship stacked on top of one another like Pomeranians in a trenchcoat

This is your reminder that the thing you are working on, the hard one you are struggling with that seems to be going nowhere—you’re doing great.

It may not seem like it, but you are.

Progress is rarely linear and visible in the hardest things in our life, but often we look back at those times where struggled the hardest and suffered the most and realized those were times we grew. A lot.

You’re growing right now, and it hurts.

So be kind to yourself.

a host, also known as a system administrator--

sable!

look at this fuckin bird

ah yes, adhd, or as I like to call it, “I’m so absent-minded that it’s literally a medical condition”

for those wondering how to establish trade relations with crows:

- feed crows food A regularly
- when crows decide to bring you gifts, feed them food B
- when crows bring you different categories of gifts, feed them a food-per-category, ex: food C for jewelry, food D for paper money, etc
- crows will recognize these exchange patterns and opt to bring you things in order to acquire desired treats

good luck! 🐦

y'all ever just see a post that's so huge that it takes up your entire screen two times over and just feel your ADHD laughing somewhere inside your head because it knows it's gonna win and you don't stand a chance at reading that huge ass post?

💿

I care for this feral animal with no other conscious goal than to bite the thumbtacks out of my board, tear up my chair, and try to get into the cupboards. I am set with a curse I’ve brought upon myself

So, the UK financial regulator tried to simplify the way banks charge people for overdrafts and make it fairer. No more daily fees, no more punitive fees for unarranged overdrafts. Just one clearly advertised interest rate for all overdrafts. The changes happen in April.

BUT, because banks are bastards, they are almost all planning to set that rate at around 40%. If your account spends most of its time overdrawn, this will really affect you.

The Money Saving Expert blog has a guide to who's announced which rate and also info about possible options for switching bank and getting a bit of respite that way. If you're permanently overdrawn, it's really worth doing something before April.

https://www.moneysavingexpert.com/banking/compare-best-bank-accounts/#overdraftlist