on asking for clarification, disclosing neurotype, and ableism (1/2)
okay this one has been slightly bugging me for a few days:
being autistic shouldn't be relevant to asking for clarification. you need it for whatever reason, go ahead and ask for it, you shouldn't need to explain why.
disclosing one's neurotype (allistic, autistic, or anything else relevant) is a learned behavior to deal with other people not wanting to repeat themselves. it's hoping pity breaks past stubbornness when you give them a reason you need the clarification, and both of those reactions (pity and stubbornness) are ableist.
i think it goes without saying why pity or condescension here are ableist, so onto stubbornness:
communication relies on understanding each other. meaning is easier to get across within a neurotype but even within a neurotype, confusion happens. they happen more cross-neurotype, sure, but dealing with them is a part of communicating. and if somebody doesn't want to, that's on them.
on asking for clarification, disclosing neurotype, and ableism (2/2)
the takeaway from this: if you need a reason to explain yourself when somebody asks, you should probably do some introspection on that. not everyone is going to understand what you're saying the first time around, whether that's for neurotype or language barrier or just not getting it.
i try my best to be responsive when somebody asks me to clear something up, even when it looks like willful misinterpretation. i encourage everybody to do the same.
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