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If your solution to countering abusive behavior is to:

>Insist on lifetime imprisonment
>Encourage physical maiming/death penalty/cruel/unusual punishment
>Refer to individuals as subhuman

I get it. I do. As someone who was abused and who genuinely felt these feelings, yeah, it fucking sucks and I know we want revenge, but we need think HARD about how fascists and fascism in general can take full and complete advantage of our emotions.

Gratitude lists not working for you? You're not the problem.

https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/a45386/gratitude-lists-dont-work/

This essay said some things I needed to hear at a time when I really needed to hear them. I'm putting this out there in case someone else needs to hear them, too.

hmm i gotta get more fountain pens i think

Software engineering will become real engineering when we scrap the idea of humans knowing things, and instead give the IDE data about every layer of abstraction, from the hardware level upward

people really genuinely misunderstand autism. its not a disease, and its not a malfunction. its just peoples brains being structured differently. they can perceive just as much as everyone else; we just interpret the input differently, or have a hard time understanding the input. because of this, you cannot separate someone from their autism, because the autism IS how we UNDERSTAND the world. you would have to alter someones comprehension, which would completely alter the person. which means, you cannot separate an autistic person from their autism. autism is just describing HOW our brains work.

other people using a label you use, does not affect you. labels are personal, and only personal. there is no such thing as a universal shared experience.

I feel despair based activism narratives are...not really helpful and like.

I feel some of this is websites not allowing distinct spaces for private venting and public activism.

But ‘hey reminder we’re all gonna die bc climate change :)’ posts getting popular, idk I feel it’s just turning a vent into splash damage.

I know they trigger the heck out of me.

How “The Golden Rule” Harms Autistic People

https://autisticsciencelady.wordpress.com/2019/10/01/how-the-golden-rule-harms-autistic-people/

"Do you know how many interactions cause autistic people harm and could be easily mitigated if non-autistics stopped assuming other people were exactly like them? If instead of projecting our own needs and emotions onto others, we actually learned about each other’s differences, listened to other people, and respected their own different needs and way of being?

If we treated people how they would like to be treated, rather than how our own selves would like to be treated – this would make such a large difference in so many neurodivergent lives.

The assumption that everyone in the world has brains that work the exact same way actively harms minority neurotypes– and disabled people in general. This is why we need the idea of neurodiversity, so that people understand that not everyone has a brain that works the same way as their own. And that doesn’t make anyone “wrong” or “bad” or “weird”– it’s just different ways of processing stimuli.

All of those different ways of being should be respected and heard– not just one".

Why are NB characters always represented with flat chest ? boobs are legit for NB people too.

And in general, being Non-Binary is NOT about to be as androgynous as possible

CWs are just asking for consent, nothing more and nothing less

A reminder that

- I am not "becoming" a girl
- I do not "identify as" a girl
- I *am* a girl

Remember that time in the distant past when free software was seen as a threat to capitalism instead of a source of unpaid labor for capitalists to siphon from?

Therapy is healthcare and should be free.