Economic Perspective on Polyamory 

Something that’s just occurring to me is the fact that women outnumber every other gender on earth. They make up the majority of humans by a considerable margin.

What’s striking to me about this statistic is that people still want to practice monoamory, while believing that monoamory is “fair”. That makes no sense.

First, let’s say the vast majority of these women are attracted to men (reasonable enough). Second, let’s assume that the vast majority of humans (of all genders) enjoy and desire sexual and/or romantic intimacy. Third, the vast majority of people desire “fairness” in society where relationships are concerned: one mate only, don’t cheat on your partner, etc.

What you end up with in that model is a hell of a lot of single ladies.

re: Economic Perspective on Polyamory 

My argument here is not that all women should be in relationships, but that monoamorists have this...idea that their system is one that is numerically fair, and it just isn’t. It’s not a good theory. Your cis math does not work. Your rationalism only tracks if you assume that humans are incapable of healthy, consensual non-monogamy.

I sometimes get the sense that cis people rationalize monoamory to conceal the fact that they aren’t psychologically mature enough to entertain the idea of a polycule, let alone participate in one. But more than that, I think they do it because capitalism is so deeply ingrained in their psyches that they allow it to dictate how they DATE.

Like.

WHAT.

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re: Economic Perspective on Polyamory 

@setsuna there are some terms in this post that I don't quite understand, so hopefully not misinterpreting...

But one thing I'd suggest is that there's a huge diff between being in a monogamous relationship and thinking that's the way every relationship should be.

I understand ur pt about math, but relationships are unique and don't boil down to pragmatism.

Also confused by how you conflate cis identity with monogamy.

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@setsuna for example, my partner is queer and we both feel strongly about being in a monogamous relationship. That's right for our relationship and it's not a political statement or some puritanical adherence to norms.

We have tons of friends who are poly and we celebrate their choices.

But what is right for our relationship is valid too

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re: Economic Perspective on Polyamory 

@slackz And yes, relationships are extremely complex and subject to cultural attitudes (both macro and micro). I’m trying to frame this more as “Why would this species keep leaving a portion of its population without mates?” than “Why not polyamory?”

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