So I promised a thread about how we experience our shared memory.
When we realized we are a system and started looking into what that actual means for us, we quickly realized that we all shared our memories. But we also realized, that our memories are still kinda different from one another. It's most apparent if two (or more) of us are co-conscious - essentially, we later remember different "versions" of whatever happened during that time, which each version having filtered the information a bit differently. So for example when Lilly and Gotos are co-conscious, while Lilly might remember feeling safe around someone, Gotos might remember that the same person made him uneasy. We all have access to both these memories, and they will be similar, but they are not equal. Whoever accesses those memories will filter the information even further when remembering - but less so for own memories. But when e.g. Gotos remembers something only Lilly saw, he might take it with a grain of salt
Over the last couple of days I noticed something else. At first I thought we didn't share all of our memories after all, but I came to another conclusion.
The other day, Lilly talked to another system about different things they experienced and how they relate to one another. There was something that Lilly couldn't relate to, but she thought Gotos and I might. So she essentially asked us to tell the other system about our experiences once we where fronting again.
I did that the same day, Gotos didn't get around to it until a day or so later. In the meantime, Gotos remembered that he was asked to tell the other system about his experiences, but forgot what exactly it was about. Lilly still knew only hours ago, but he had to read the previous messages to remember.
As said, I don't think that this is because we don't share our memories but we have different ways of storing them. Let me explain.
So imagine our memories are like text files. Not fancy Word or Google Docs or LibreOffice Writer text files, plain txt files without any sort of formating. And while we all store these memories.txts on a shared hard drive, we have different ways of organizing them.
Imagine Lilly having a structure for her files. A folder per day, inside chronologically sorted files, each containing a certain situation. Each file has
and has the infos in short, precise sentences.
Gotos might only have one folder, but all the files are named 2019-09-06-23:01.txt or similar. Inside he uses
with no subheadlines and he writes complex sentences. Precise, for sure, but usually not short.
And I'll have neat folder and subfolders, that are not really ordered by any chronology but by types and subtypes of situations. The file names are names for the specific situations like first_time_fronting_at_work.txt. They contain only bullet points with apparent structure whatsoever, but I find my way around.
No imagine you want to remember something, but you weren't fronting or co-conscious at that time. Gotos and Lilly kinda have similiar structures, but still the details of their structures differ. And my structure is just totally different.
Essentially, instead of knowing immediately where to look, you have to search through a bunch of files and hope you find the one containing the memory you need.
Obviously they way I described our individual style of organizing these files are made up. Memories are not just text files and I do think I have some sort of structure to my memories. But as an analogy, this works reasonably well, I think.
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