Neptune🚀 @neptune@plural.cafe

Two things, first:
1. I am not an authority on CWs, nor is any of this meant in any judgmental or expectant context. Feel free to follow or not follow any of this.
2. It is completely okay to "mess up" on CWs. It is also completely okay to be told something you posted should probably be CWed. It is not someone coming to enforce a social law on you. You do not have to delete and change your post. But please consider others' limits.

I'm butch and transfemme because the spelling is dope and "fem" just looks weird to me.

Sorry if you don't like how I choose to identify.

So people who run single-user instances

I've been lowkey thinking about starting one for my future company, since business accounts don't really belong on .Art, but like how much would you estimate I would need? I have a space at a web hotel that I'm currently hosting my portfolio website at, but it only uses like 1% of the space I have. Would it be possible or even desireable to host everything on there??

uhh #MastoAdmin ??

Hello!!

Being non-binary doesn’t mean looking androgynous!

Non-binary people who don’t look androgynous are just as valid as those who don’t!

By request, here's a public version of a toot I wrote as a reply to someone asking for encouragement. I hope this can help encourage you, too.

It's natural to want to run away from scary things like transitioning. Even if it's difficult and scary right now, the urge to run away and give up or get rid of things (like feminine clothing, make-up, etc.) that you've obtained to help you feel better is a fight-or-flight response.

It sounds so much easier to give up, but from my experience...even if it hurts now, it'll hurt even more later if you do give up.

Think of how you want to see yourself in five years. Don't think about right now or what could happen during transition; think about the person you want to strive to be. How does it make you feel when you think about it? It may seem like a dream. It did for me.

When I started transition, I never thought I'd ever be able to look like anything other than a dude. I catastrophized about worst-case scenarios, fully believing that these bad things would 100% happen. I wanted to give up so badly because I didn't think I'd ever have a "successful" transition. But I didn't give up, even though it hurt so much. I couldn't bear the thought of things being the same as they were then in another five years.

I won't say that transitioning is easy. Mine was full of stumbles and hardship. I lost my entire "family" (blood relatives). Bad things did happen. But here I am, 6 years later, and I actually ended up closer to what I had wanted to become. I feel like myself. It's life-changing. It was difficult. But I wouldn't have become who I am today had I not gone through with it. I regret nothing. This is a glimpse of my story.

It's your decision to make. I want you to think about how you feel. Even if you decide not to transition, you are still valid. You are still trans. You are still one of us. And you will still have my support. <3

#introduction #introductions

Hey. My name is Autumn. I'm an entity of some sort; trans/genderfluid/demigirl/gxrl or something (I don't even know sometimes). My pronouns are they/them/theirs.

I'm a dork. I enjoy making up new lyrics to songs on the radio (and forever ruining the songs for everyone else). I have a very dry sense of humor and I like bad jokes. I suppose I should water that.

I'm an empath. You could say that it's one of my greatest strengths. I enjoy supporting others when I can. I always want people to know that they're not alone.

I do crappy art and I'm also a writer, neither of which I have ever shared with anyone because I am self-conscious about my work, so it's a secret to everybody. Maybe I should have redacted this from my intro

I am a web designer and I enjoy it most when I am inspired

I am really bad about talking about myself so here's what some people have said about me:

"winter, spring, summer, and fall; there is no autumn" -unknown/can't remember

"you aren't stupid, you are a friend" -ex-friend

"you look like you're 25 or so" -liquor store cashier

"you're the second prettiest trans woman that I know" -Zoey (ex-girlfriend)

"i'd would totally hire you as the lead vocalist for my band" -Mara (friend)

Aside from all of this blathering, I am mentally ill. Specifically PTSD, BPD, and DID. I am an open book about this because there needs to be less stigma surrounding mental illnesses. I like to try to help others understand that we are people too and the stereotypes about us are often offensive and just wrong. People need to judge us as individuals, not as stereotypes of our illnesses.

If you've gotten this far, I want to say thank you for reading this. I hope we can become friends. :)

-Autumn

I'm struggling with my sexual orientation because I don't know exactly what it is. I keep juggling back and forth between gray-ace and pansexual. I guess the confusion comes from Erin and myself being co-conscious; she's definitely pansexual, so maybe that interferes with my perception of my own sexual orientation? I'm so confused.