Pinned toot instance meta (rules rewrite) 

Hello folks! @starfall speaking, we spent some time yesterday rewriting the rules section with an eye on making paragraphs shorter and our values more explicit.

They haven't taken effect yet; the draft can be seen at

Some things are added to the old rules, not just reworded:

* "blatant advertising" -> "corporate advertising", with a specific exception for self-promotion
* explicitly sex and kink positive, but these must still be content warned appropriately
* explicitly sex worker positive, give or take some legal requirements
* required content warnings section added, with some of the most common triggers we know of
* some changes to the bot account policy - bots must be opt-in, not opt-out, automated posts shouldn't be on public
* more explicit federation policy around suspending some servers that don't block servers we suspend

Feel free to comment and suggest changes here or @ us directly.

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Did that use this term as a racist dog whistle or because they don't know the history behind the term? A fediverse choose your own adventure story.

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Just because you lost an opportunity you really wanted because you upheld your boundary doesn't mean you shouldn't have stuck to that boundary. It just means it wasn't the right time/place/person/whatever.

It's okay to be sad about it though.

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Peace is a lie, there is only passion.
Through passion, I gain strength.
Through strength, I gain power.
Through power, I gain victory.
Through victory, my chains are broken.

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touch paws.
be queer.
befriend dragons.

in whichever order suits you.

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I feel like today I should take up more of your timeline so Hello! I have graced you with my presence, you may swoon now. If I'm feeling fancy maybe some selfies will come later, you're welcome.

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In light of recent events:

Outing trans folks will get you suspended. I do not give a fuck if you're trying to get one over on the biggest and richest asshole on the planet, he doesn't care and peoples' safety is not a pawn to be used like that.

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subtoot, mentions drugs and catgirls 

catgirls who smell nice vs stinky kobolds vs weed-scented scally felines

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if youre gonna end an argument with "take your meds" then anything you argued becomes forfeit under the weight of your ableism

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another selfie, EC, not really bare chest but it's close, and boobies out 


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Selfie, EC, no bare chest but boobies out 

I don't even give a fuck anymore. Just let me be that local hot bitch no one dare to approach.

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Trauma, joke, therapy 

Trauma is an invention of the therapy industry to sell more therapy.

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J'ai commencé ma transition en 2015 but enfin j'ai réussi à déposer mon dossier de changement de prénom 🥳

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Trans discourse 

I really like the umbrella meaning of trans*. Can ppl pls stop to use it in narrow ways and always bring up some genitals and doctors and ewww. Trans is an open umbrella term for lots of different trans identities not just for transgender folks.

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ableism with chronic pain 

one thing i dont see in disability discussions often is how sometimes its hard to get a diagnosis of what you have causing you pain. like you literally cant afford additional testing. even with insurance, invasive tests can get RIDICULOUSLY expensive. hell at my HRT clinic alone they have a sign that says they can bill you additionally if you so much as DISCUSS a health concern unrelated to your visit.

i mean its fuuucked but i just wish people would stop acting surprised when i tell them, as im laying for several hours a day on the couch or in bed in pain, that i dont know what i have. even as its progressively getting worse. plus, working a 40 hour/week job you may not even have TIME to schedule an appointment for diagnosis, or further testing. our current system is fucked beyond belief and no its not an exaggeration.

in accommodating for disability, this cannot be dependent on a diagnosis. disability accommodations are accommodations for all, regardless of medical status.

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Pandemic, lewd, ppe 

We need like face masks with dental dams in the center.

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Selfie, eye contact, bra 

Not sure what shirt to put on but I guess I should put something on before I have to get on a zoom call... I guess.

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I really do not need any dystopian fiction when this is our reality.

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