ADHD, childhood, long
my experience with ADHD as a child feels so, so much different than what others with ADHD say..
maybe that's just because I had teachers that were surprisingly good for people with ADHD and classmates who were determined to be on good terms with me. like all throughout middle school and high school, my teachers accommodated me and while i wasn't really a popular person, i was never bullied or teased because. hell, when i changed schools, my teachers at my old school even gave a heads up to my teachers at the new school and told them about how i learn and how to accommodate me.
it honestly hurts to see that this just isn't everyone's experience, and I really only just started to think about all this. I really wish the world was more accepting and accommodating of neurodiverse people, though from what I heard from my old teacher, the best teacher I ever had, that's the way it's heading. at the very least, that's how it is heading here.
pluralphobia, PSA on how to ACTUALLY include plurals
If you claim to be a community that includes plurals in your discussions, but you only ever give us the means to talk about ourselves as a system and never give room for the potential for just one person in a system participating without the rest?
That's as pluralphobic as denying that there's a system at all.
Individual plurans are not our whole systems and deserve to be considered regular individual people. If we aren't able to participate as individuals, it's erasure of the fact that we are individuals.
meta about basing identities in trauma and how it hinders healing
When we base our identities in trauma, we have often already hindered our healing processes.
Because if you ever heal, then what of the identity you based around all the pain you felt? What of the communities built around circlejerking about trauma (not the same as support groups) and the friends made there?
If you're not suffering anymore, then the identity built around that crumbles and you have to find new groups that aren't about suffering. And that's hard. Which makes people very reluctant to actually learn how to heal, especially when some groups subtly discourage it.
community meta, contrapoints
You know, it's been bothering me that all of the pro-contrapoints takes I've seen have been focused on the validity of the complaints folks have about her. People believe those things for a reason, and even if you don't think they're correct you still shouldn't just dismiss the harm they felt. If you don't understand why people are feeling one particular way or reading something different into the situation than you are, that's a great opportunity to ask and learn, not to express astonishment that yours is not the only perspective in the world.
(might be a VERY unpopular opinion) med, health related PSA | long toot
Self-diagnosis is okay.
Looking at the ICD/DSM, talking to people diagnosed with it, researching and *finding that this is what your life is like* is okay.
You don't have to go to a doctor, you don't have to experience every single minor symptom, you don't have to "always had it". No.
If you find something that explains everything perfectly and that is what you need, then diagnose yourself.
If you need specific accommodations, talk to a doctor or otherwise medical professional, because that's something the system needs. If you find that their advice isn't helpful, talk to the next one. Talk to everyone until you find someone who understands.
I also don't always have the energy to follow that advice, but it still influences my way of approaching the journey to health.
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