plural.cafe instance meta (rules rewrite)
Hello folks! @starfall speaking, we spent some time yesterday rewriting the rules section with an eye on making paragraphs shorter and our values more explicit.
They haven't taken effect yet; the draft can be seen at https://hackmd.io/@starfall/plural-cafe-rules-draft
Some things are added to the old rules, not just reworded:
* "blatant advertising" -> "corporate advertising", with a specific exception for self-promotion
* explicitly sex and kink positive, but these must still be content warned appropriately
* explicitly sex worker positive, give or take some legal requirements
* required content warnings section added, with some of the most common triggers we know of
* some changes to the bot account policy - bots must be opt-in, not opt-out, automated posts shouldn't be on public
* more explicit federation policy around suspending some servers that don't block servers we suspend
Feel free to comment and suggest changes here or @ us directly.
four mirror magic spells for trans people, cw: dysphorias
The following spells face dysphoria heads-on. They can feel super uncomfortable, and sometimes downright terrifying. Please take care and be sure you can access your support network before trying.
🪞 To flip the gender of the mirror self 🪞
Works best when you have already seen yourself at least once, so you know what it feels like. To be cast when you glance at your reflection and see it as the wrong gender. If you glanced at it by accident, don’t look away. Stop. Look at it. Look at it.
Breath deep, three times.
See the mirrorself as somebody else. Start the spell with a greeting. "Hi, I’m $name, and I’m a $gender_noun" (girl, boy, man, femby etc.) – out loud whenever possible. The boy/enby/etc. in the mirror is another person, telling you that. Do you believe them?
(If you have too much voice dysphoria to speak out aloud, let mirrorself say the following exact words: "This is my voice and it’s a $gender_nouns’ voice, because I’m a $gender_noun".)
Mirrorself is fully confident in their (her, his, faer etc.) gender. They’re showing it to you, like a model at a photoshoot. Don’t look away. Look deep into their eyes. Let them pose. Let them tilt their head, make funny faces, laugh and scowl and get angry. Make angles, gestures, body language symbolic of who you are (girlish, motherly, non-conforming? a kitten, a dilf, monster? pose like one.)
Keep doing this until the gender in the mirror reflects you. Bow or nod or otherwise thank mirrorself for their (his, xir etc.) help.
pombagiras appreciation thread, translating pontos, gender-related violence, tobacco, Razor Blade Pombagira
> Toldja not to provoke her
> Toldja not to pick a fight
> Her foes she rips apart
> Her foes, rips apart
> Up in the favelas, they call her Maria
> But the bourgeois all know her
> As the Razor Blade Pombagira
> Big smile on her face, weapon hidden in her skirt,
> Call her by her name, she’s Maria Razor Blade.
C: A razor blade is the weapon of sex workers.
C: For bad clients.
C: Blade’s domain is the piers at night, the street corners.
> Some men will beat women, but there are women who beat men
> By the seaside pier, Razor Blade-woman is man.
> Too smart for work, Maria
Razor Blade, puts things in their place
> Midnight at the cross-roads, make sure you light a candle
> For Razor Blade of the favelas, fierce, brave.
"she drank like a sailor, smoked like a dockworker and fought like a bouncer."
> Razor Blade told me, be careful, do it right
>She warned me, gave me her word
> She’ll kill with no blood, devour without a bite.
R: Navalha has so much butch energy 🥺
plural, sex, transfeminine, very lewd
R: and what's up with we producing girlcum again anyway? we hadn't wet our panties in precum in a long long time.
R: I'm aware that pombagiras are known to make AMAB people lactate through possession. is this anything to do with you?
C: hon let me explain the metaphysics of this here:
C: the more we consume the more we have :giggle:
isn't it funny tho that DID is defined as "having this and this and this symptom, _except_ if this is part of a cultural practice, then the exact same symptoms are not a disease"
like nobody will say that of a body disease? "these itches mean you have chickenpox, unless having chickenpox is part of your culture"
we found some articles that compare DID with shamanism/mediunity, including the Brazilian kind. the common results seem to be that the, let's say, neutral symptoms (multiple identities, amnesia etc.) are the same in both, but the "negative" ones (trauma association, distress, negative impact on life etc.) happen only in DID.
I feel like there's a kind of condescending subtext to the medical field, like, "oh these primitive people treat DID in a superstitious way and then I guess that's a backwards way of making a social space for ppl with the condition, but we don't want to be ~intolerant~, so let's say that when they do it it's not a disease"
but if the "negative" effects of multiple identity (using this term on purpose) come not from the condition itself but from the way society treats ppl who are this way,
then I don't think it's a mental disease, I think it's the scientific enlightened industrial capitalist society that has an unacknowledged disease.
I'm not saying all you rational skeptics should believe in spirits and whatnot. But maybe if there was _some_ kind of allowance for DID people to be safely out about it and acknowledged and respected, then maybe the "distressing" parts of the condition might just resolve as if by magic and presto, it's not a mental disease anymore? Just my R$0,02 here. (B.)
selfie, eye contact, plurality exploration
R: (trying to dress their way using the Elilla-centric wardrobe)
R: (Actually enjoys the challenge of rummaging outfits from what's at hand)
E: eeee you're actually quite fashionable mona
R: never said I didn't care about style ^^
R: just a different take on it
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