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Server Nitty Gritty (Don't Worry About This) 

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PSA about posting lewds 

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Me: "Hey, I'm plural!"
A friend: "Oh, nice! More friends for the same money!"

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manipulative ass, but positive experience 

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Meds (~) 

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"make eye contact so I know you're paying attention to me"
"ok" [concentrates on making eye contact and immediately can't focus on anything you're saying]

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dragging myself, shitpost [io] 

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Tell your conservative relatives that climate change made you queer

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re: dragging myself, shitpost [io] 

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❤️​ Guess who got a new outfit yesterday, has been fronting for longer than usual, and looks damn hot

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(-), job stuff, rant on corporate dress code 

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If you understand something, you can explain it simply using plain language. If you can't, then save it for your limited academic audiences. It's not only academics who do this, too. Activists at all levels are guilty of it, too, using terminology that is limited to their individual communities. It's true that more privileged people could bother to educate themselves in some cases, but not everyone has the ability or resources to do so. You should strive to be understandable as much as others should strive to understand.

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Hi. Don't say "women and enbies" if you only mean enbies with vulvas.

Thanks,
UV

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💧: Knowing we are someone's "horror story" kinda sucks. Like we scare people enough to silence a room type level if we openly talk about being plural in public.

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So imagine our memories are like text files. Not fancy Word or Google Docs or LibreOffice Writer text files, plain txt files without any sort of formating. And while we all store these memories.txts on a shared hard drive, we have different ways of organizing them.

Imagine Lilly having a structure for her files. A folder per day, inside chronologically sorted files, each containing a certain situation. Each file has
# Headlines
and
## Subheadlines
and has the infos in short, precise sentences.

Gotos might only have one folder, but all the files are named 2019-09-06-23:01.txt or similar. Inside he uses
h1. Headlines
with no subheadlines and he writes complex sentences. Precise, for sure, but usually not short.

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And I'll have neat folder and subfolders, that are not really ordered by any chronology but by types and subtypes of situations. The file names are names for the specific situations like first_time_fronting_at_work.txt. They contain only bullet points with apparent structure whatsoever, but I find my way around.

No imagine you want to remember something, but you weren't fronting or co-conscious at that time. Gotos and Lilly kinda have similiar structures, but still the details of their structures differ. And my structure is just totally different.
Essentially, instead of knowing immediately where to look, you have to search through a bunch of files and hope you find the one containing the memory you need.

Obviously they way I described our individual style of organizing these files are made up. Memories are not just text files and I do think I have some sort of structure to my memories. But as an analogy, this works reasonably well, I think.

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So I promised a thread about how we experience our shared memory.

When we realized we are a system and started looking into what that actual means for us, we quickly realized that we all shared our memories. But we also realized, that our memories are still kinda different from one another. It's most apparent if two (or more) of us are co-conscious - essentially, we later remember different "versions" of whatever happened during that time, which each version having filtered the information a bit differently. So for example when Lilly and Gotos are co-conscious, while Lilly might remember feeling safe around someone, Gotos might remember that the same person made him uneasy. We all have access to both these memories, and they will be similar, but they are not equal. Whoever accesses those memories will filter the information even further when remembering - but less so for own memories. But when e.g. Gotos remembers something only Lilly saw, he might take it with a grain of salt

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DID misrepresentation in media 

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Pokemon Go is making me go outside again because i actually live within walking distance of several pokestops and two gyms

i went outside on my own today just to get the pokestop down the street! :o thats big for me! agoraphobia + no friends + years of being a shut-in for other reasons makes it so hard to leave the house and this is actually giving me motivation to again. Im glad it got updates.

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