Pinned toot instance meta (rules rewrite) 

Hello folks! @starfall speaking, we spent some time yesterday rewriting the rules section with an eye on making paragraphs shorter and our values more explicit.

They haven't taken effect yet; the draft can be seen at

Some things are added to the old rules, not just reworded:

* "blatant advertising" -> "corporate advertising", with a specific exception for self-promotion
* explicitly sex and kink positive, but these must still be content warned appropriately
* explicitly sex worker positive, give or take some legal requirements
* required content warnings section added, with some of the most common triggers we know of
* some changes to the bot account policy - bots must be opt-in, not opt-out, automated posts shouldn't be on public
* more explicit federation policy around suspending some servers that don't block servers we suspend

Feel free to comment and suggest changes here or @ us directly.

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re: ableism (not meta) 

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one of the things about ableism is that disability takes so many different forms that having one of them doesn't make you immune from perpetuating ableism yourself.

you can be a wheelchair user who perpetuates harmful stereotypes about mentally ill ppl. you can be an autistic person who thinks chronically ill ppl are 'just lazy'. you can be a mentally ill person who's gross about physically disabled ppls bodies

like even if we don't have the same institutional power or whatever as a fully abled person all of us still need to be careful about slipping into those thought patterns that capitalism drills into us, I think

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ableism (not meta) 

opposing ableism does not begin and end with accessibility, or with using the 'right' language

ableism is not some harmless mildly problematic quirk that we can deal with after we sort out the REAL problems. it's deeply entwined with this whole shitty capitalist system.

can't work to produce more wealth for the rich? why should you even get to exist then?

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nuclear disasters and irradiation 

the worst part is how preventable that last one was. who the hell thought it was a good idea to leave radioactive material in an abandoned building and not only refuse to take it, but bar the previous owner from collecting it, and letting it stay like this while the building was frequently looted while the general populace only knew that the machine was valuable? what the fuck!?

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nuclear disasters and irradiation 

worst radiation disasters in history:

- nuclear bombings of Nagasaki and Hiroshima

- the Chernobyl meltdown

- the Fukushima disaster

- that time some Brazilians didn't know that radiation machines for treating cancer were radioactive and contaminated an entire city

one of these things is not like the others

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not to be TOO rosy on main but who thinks of having a ragtag team of people with whom you just live with but you all cooperate for each other's good, help each other out, do household tasks for each other, and otherwise work together to support everyone as a group and yall are there for each other

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whomst else up in here fantasizes about supporting a found family

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time distortion 

us: programs for ten minutes
clock: it has been two hours

us: waits half an hour for the build to finish
clock: it has been five minutes

us: lays down to nap with a 20 minute alarm set
us: naps for an hour and a half
us: wakes up panicking about oversleeping
clock: it has been 12 minutes

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courtesy of @Dizzy from last week -


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gun safety (st louis events related) 

ughhh we're keeping our criticism in this argument limited to how the folks waving their guns around were irresponsible and people are still disagreeing with the most lukewarm takes like

  • the gate to your gated community is not your responsibility and knocking it over is not equivalent to threatening you
  • a march down the street may be reason to think things might become a self defense situation, but isn't one yet
  • if you think you might end up in a self defense situation, you stay in cover and don't escalate
  • there is never a reason to put your finger on the trigger unless you are actively shooting
  • there is never a reason to point a firearm at something unless you are willing to destroy it

this is gun safety and self defense 101. if you own a firearm for self defense or have even thought about it, you should know these things.

"responsible gun ownership" in the states is a fucking lie and this country is a gun cult

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selfies, eye contact, boosts and compliments welcome 


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ooh are we on this part of the pride discourse cycle again?

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Huh. This actually very precisely addresses one of our insecurities:


hey i'm sorry if this is worded weird but- is it common for alters and the consciousness to feel like... separate things? like we have switches pretty regularly but it never feels like 'stepping back' and the person who fronts changes but it still feels like the same consciousness. like we all just experience the world through the same camera, the only difference is who's holding it? sorry again if this is confusing


Yes, that’s not only common in median systems but in all other kinds of systems too.

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in a perfect world there is no hate

only buns
so many buns

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Just came out to a super-curated subset of facebook friends. Let's hope they're cool with us 👀

- Del & Dani

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my apartment may be a complete mess only 1/4 of the way unpacked but now i know why we have 120 V power but actually it's 240V but actually it's 120V

thanks YouTube recommended

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between all platforms, southern fried queer pride reached their goal and surpassed it, reaching $66,000 to fund a Black queer owned community space!
the space is guaranteed to be funded, but they've raised the goal to $100k for more resources to guarantee more accessibility and such!
Cash App: $sfqpatl
Venmo: @tayloralxndr

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*beep boop* wake from sleep successful, now restoring session (estimated 6 hours remaining)

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